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Sexual energy really doesn’t have anything to do with sex.

Mixing my experience as a Chi Kung teacher and 30 years as a self-awareness coach, I can help advise you how to intensify sex and enhance life by using sexual energy for everything you do, not just making love.

Sexual energy needs to flow through you whole body, head to toe and everywhere in between. When it is just focused on your sexual organs you will be frustrated and sex won’t be nearly as satisfying as it can be.

The difference between making love with your whole body and not just your sexual organs is enormous.

I remember once in an advanced Chi Kung class we separated into men and women. Us men hung weights from our male organs. Weird, huh? Please don’t try this at home.

The weight hung downward providing a powerful force and also a counter force. The counter force was sexual energy pulling back into our entire bodies. Rather than feeling aroused sexually we felt aroused fully by life.

I am not sure what the women did, let’s leave that up to our imaginations.

Luckily, you don’t have to hang weights from your scrotum, or anywhere else, to enhance and increase your sexual energy. Just a little exercise will provide you with the same result.

To enhance your sexual energy and have it flow throughout your whole body begin by focusing your attention on your lower back.

Move your attention up your back to the crown of your head, around your head and back down the front of your body. Slowly move your attention all the way down to your toes then up your legs and then your back. Repeat.

In Chi Kung this simple movement is called the Macrocosmic Orbit. Energy follows attention, so as your attention is moving your energy is flowing with it.

Blocking energy tires you, wears you out and makes life a lot less fun. It can even get in the way of sexual performance and interest in sex.

A couple of minutes twice a day, or anytime you think of it, move your attention up your back, up to your head and down the front of your body. You can do this while commuting, in line at the grocery story or anywhere. With a little practice this loop will become effortless and you will feel the energy moving in you.

You will experience three main benefits from this simple exercise:

 You will feel energized.

You will have more attention.

You will feel an increase in sexual energy.

As your sexual energy increases you won’t necessarily want to have sex all the time, but your sexual motor will always be running.

You will feel more vital, awake and alert. When you do have sex, sensations will engulf you. In fact, having sex will become orgasmic and orgasm will blow your ever loving mind.

With a little practice, you will be able to consciously flow your energy up your back, and down the front of your body while you are having sex and that is when the wild times really begin.

Are you ready for the best sex of your life? If so make sure you practice the exercise I described earlier then try this:

During sex, put your attention on your back, moving it to your head, down the front of your body and when you reach your waist, move your attention and the energy that follows it, into your partner’s body, up the back of your partner’s body, down the front, up the front of his/her legs and back into your body.

Flow your attention, and energy in a kind of figure eight between your body and your partners.

This may take a little bit of practice, but it is way worth it. The two of you will mix your energies. You don’t need your partner’s permission to do this, and you can do it in any sexual position. You can even do it when you aren’t having sex and it can become the most inspiring, titillating foreplay imaginable.

The best foreplay is the kind that is infinitely rewarding by itself, without leading somewhere. Practicing with your energy/attention will seduce you and then you and your partner into a world of ecstasy. When you regularly share this kind of pleasure it makes every part of relationship better. It makes life and love so rewarding and mind blowing that there are always more great times coming.

Setting your sexual energy free is that easy and fun. It does take a little practice, but it is so worth it.

For more: Read:

8 Feng Shui Ways to Create the Space for Love.