Cary Grant on the problem with Divine Goddesses…and Katharine Hepburn on the Right Time to make your mind up about People.

Happiness isn’t achieved through positivity or Secret-style wishful thinking. It’s achieved through bravery, and compassion.

I was just talking this over with a few friends at the Kitchen Next Door in downtown Boulder, today: the quest for imaginary perfection, or positivity (NY Times), or Spiritual Materialism…it lacks a sense of humor.

We can’t laugh at ourselves. We push away pain, we cling to pleasure. The gated communities of our hearts are closed, stiff upper lipped, and our lack of bravery sucks out any openness or empathy, and closes our hearts against true, real, alive happiness.

Life’s too short for positivity:

For Five Quotes & Photos via the Original Hipster Tomboy, Katharine Hepburn, click here.

Bonus: