At 36 years old, my life and who I am is guided deeply by my truths, but that was not always my reality.

If I could go back and teach myself “secrets” of true wholeness, self worth and unconditional love that would carry through my lifetime it would be this:

• Never allow your self-worth to be wrapped into what others think of you. Whether your family is not supportive, your classmates don’t get you, or your significant other makes you feel less than worthy, none of it has anything to do with you. People only project their own insecurities, doubt and fears onto you and it is up to you to decide whether or not you want to accept this as your own. Accept your own knowing of yourself and let your self-worth be guided by who you know yourself to be.

• You don’t need to know all the answers right now. Everything works out in the end, and if it doesn’t it is not the end yet. You don’t need to know the exact year you get married, how many children you have, if you go to graduate school, immerse yourself in another country, or become critically acclaimed in all areas of life. The answer is yes, yes to all of it, if you want it, I mean really want whatever it is that you want then yes, but perhaps not in the timeline that you want it in. Everything happens at the perfect moment. Relax in the flow of whatever is taking place and welcome each moment with ease.

• Don’t obsess about your weight, your looks or your material possessions. My weight is always at the perfect weight for myself when I eat whole foods and exercise regularly. When I weigh myself nonstop and deprive my body of nutrition that is just not a healthy life worth keeping. Maintaining our body and skin is important for our livelihood, but aging naturally with grace is wholeness at its peak. What you have; your home, your car, and clothing are all lovely, but don’t become too attached with that that can never nourish you on a soulful/spiritual level.

• The people in your life is what gives your life richness. Surround yourself with people that don’t make you look good but rather they make you feel good. There is a connection between you and them within the relationship that allows you both to honor who the other is. Who you surround yourself with will color your life in a very specific way, choose wisely.

We have this illusion of how we think life should be, but life should be exactly how it unravels not how we believe it should be. Through the pain staking years of holding a grip so tight on my wants I now simply just trust in myself and the universe and its greater knowing and wisdom. When we are really alive we are allowing the universe to do its thing. We make a conscious choice to get out of our own way long enough to simply enjoy all that we deserve, and we deserve it all. We absolutely do.

Jodie Berman is the creator of Bliss Life LLC, life coach, holistic healing practitioner, professor, yogi and lifelong student of thriving in a chaotic world while finding peace through the divine. Driven by being a catalyst for change with others by uncovering your passions, unearthing your blocks and supporting you in being courageous in your own life. I invite you to celebrate your blissful life by embarking on your own self evolution revolution. You may follow her on her website, blog or on Facebook.

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