A girlfriend of mine caught me by surprise the other day while we were sitting at lunch.

The conversation started out of nowhere when she began to express to me that she has no desire to ever marry.  She indicated the only thing she really needs from a man is sex, and that she doesn’t find ultimate fulfillment in relationships.

She wants a boy toy in every port, and does not want any man telling her what she can or can’t do.

She’s my fierce, renegade friend, who I find utterly amusing.

My jaw dropped as she was talking. I had no idea that she was like this, or thought like this, but I couldn’t help but laugh and enjoy the conversation as she continually cracked me up. Instead of droning on about finding that special guy or lamenting over the fact that she is not married and well into her 30s, it was exactly the opposite of most conversations women have.

Then she turned to me and asked, “When did women start wanting sex more than men?”

I don’t even pretend to have the answers, but I thought this topic was worthy enough to share. It has long been believed that men want and need sex more than women, but when it boils down to it, this isn’t always true. Sexual needs and wants really depends on the individual. We all have different sexual appetites and different desires for how often we want sex.

At the end of our conversation (I couldn’t stop smiling) I told my friend, “Well, honey, you are going to have to find a man with a sexual appetite to match yours.”

She laughed and responded. “I swear, one man will never be enough for me.” And she was dead serious.

You may think she is crazy but I swear she is not.  This woman is just speaking her truth.  But I’d love to hear your thoughts on the subject.  How much sex is too much?  Not enough?  Should we settle down?  If not, why not?  Please leave your comments below.

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XO,

Hayley

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Ed: Kate Bartolotta