I am well aware that I am swimming in a sea of men.

They are everywhere I look, and for the most part they all seem to want the same thing…Sex!

I have come to understand that if I navigate this man pool with balance and consciousness, I can shift the face of human evolution. I mindfully choose which penis is worthy enough to merge with my sacred vagina, and I have evolutionary sex.

Evolutionary sex is the most potent sex of my life; it’s so powerful that Earth is transformed afterwards. When I pick my partner from a balanced place, I choose balance in my mate and as a result, I help restore balance in my world. I choose conscious evolution through conscious conception.

Back in college I chose to have sex with hyper-masculine hotties that I would meet through friends, at the gym or out at the bars. I chose these men because I reveled in their strength and self assured attitudes.

But when I would repeatedly wake up the next morning with a throbbing head and hollow feeling inside, my inner feminist would shake her head in disapproval. She wasn’t a bit surprised when I would once again have my heart roughly handed back to me after being carelessly man-handled by my latest masculine mate. I found myself stuck in this heart-breaking cycle.

It took years, but I finally figured out how to step out of my cyclical sex samsara (cycle of birth, suffering, death and rebirth). I realized that my search for strength and self assurance in a mate was arising because I lacked those things in myself. I was never satiated by masculine partners because what I truly needed was to awaken my internal man, or my masculine side. I found that I was out of balance.

So I made a list of all of the things that I was searching for in a man, and I set about awakening those things in myself.

I like strong men, so I forced myself to become physically and emotionally stronger. I like knowledgeable men, so I worked to increasing my own knowledge. I like independent men, so I became more independent in my actions. I like passionate men, so I started to follow my passions.

By empowering my masculine side, I enable myself to become whole again. I learned the full feeling I used to seek out in sex is actually generated by my inner balance. I am the only one capable of filling my hollow self up.

I balance my internal yang with my internal yin, and I come into wholeness within—into balance in my being. This balance radiates out from my center like a light turned on from within.

I come into balance and I find that I am no longer searching for men, instead they are actively searching for me.

My internal flame attracts a myriad of male moths. I feel exponentially more attractive. I believe this is because I have tapped into what truly makes me sexy—my confidence, which I generate through obtaining balance in my being.

I transcend the need to have another being complete me. I am a strong, empowered and balanced human being.

As it turns out, there is nothing sexier than that.

When I realize I’m more than just my vagina, I demand that my mate be more than just a dick. I am a balanced being, and I expect the same out of my partner.

It turns out the balanced male archetype is a bit of an anomaly these days. He is being fazed out of the gene pool and has been for quite some time. Society has labeled him a “nice-guy” and told him he is going to finish last.

It seems like my hyper-masculine culture has taught men to oppress their feminine sides, which creates internal imbalance. This imbalance manifests externally—I see it daily on a global scale.

It appears in the form of large scale oppression of women around the world. It can be seen in the face of rape, domestic violence and even war.

Through selecting hyper-masculine men to have sex with, I had been feeding my culture of feminine oppression.

Through searching for my masculinity outside of myself, I created a demand for my hyper-masculine culture.

Now I think about sex a little differently. I realize that my sexual preferences and escapades actually shape evolution and I want to be a part of a culture evolving towards balance.

This knowledge changes who I decide to have sex with.

What does this change look like? It looks like more sex for the “nice guy.”

That’s right, watch out macho men, that guy you just called pussy will be getting more of exactly that!

Evolutionary sex is experienced when complete individuals merge and consciously co-create. From this co-creation, a new era of balance, unity and consciousness is born. My revolution is sexual in nature.

I choose to revolt against my imbalanced, hyper-masculine culture.

I do this by by refusing to have sex with it.

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Assistant Editor: Steph Richard

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