I’m not a sex therapist. I just happen to be a person who has amazing sex.

My experience has included my own self-discovery. I’ve mentioned in previous articles that my partner and I don’t engage in what most would call kinky sex to deliver mind-blowing orgasms.

It’s actually a lot of missionary, but it’s amazing missionary.

We’ve laughed at ourselves and said if someone filmed us it would probably look really boring, but oh-my-God it was f*cking incredible.

Our ideas about what we need to do in the bedroom to have amazing sex are skewed to focus on the act and less on the connection. I was inspired to share four positions that we have used that delivered what can only be described as transcendental orgasms, but I preface it with the understanding that loving yourself and having an aligned connection with your partner come first.

When you combine self-love and connection with these positions it will—well—rock your world.

The High Missionary

How to Do It: The man enters the woman in a standard missionary position. He then moves his arms up higher than the woman’s shoulders until his pelvis is slightly higher than the woman’s, but he can still effectively thrust in and out. The thrust is slight, but deep. The woman holds the man’s buttocks and grinds her pelvis into the man’s pelvic bone in the opposite direction of his thrust. For example, as he is thrusting into the vagina, the woman is thrusting her pelvis down across his pelvic bone. When he is on the outthrust she is moving her pelvis back up to prepare for the next downward thrust as he reënters.

Why it Works: When the man moves his pelvis higher than your pelvis it forces the penis to bend during penetration so that it rubs the vaginal walls more noticeably. By moving your hips in the opposite direction of his thrust you engage his pelvis into deep clitoral stimulation. The combination of these two can deliver a clitoral and intra-vaginal orgasm simultaneously. For the man, the deeper penetration combined with the vaginal spasms that occur during an intra-vaginal orgasm deliver an intense orgasm for him as well.

The Missionary Goddess

How to Do It: The woman sits on top of the man and allows him to enter her. She then lowers her arms so that their chests touch as she moves her legs until they are both inside of the man’s legs. She rests on her elbows and wraps her hands under the man’s shoulders. She then uses her hands to move her pelvis to create upwards and downward thrusts, moving her pelvis towards the man’s head and then down towards his toes while pushing her pelvis against his pelvis. The man places his hands on the woman’s buttocks and grinds his pelvic bone into her clitoris after she achieves full penetration between her thrusts. The thrusts are small and controlled while equally intense.

Why it Works: The angle of the man’s penis stimulates the g-spot while his pelvic grinding stimulates the clitoris. This position delivers the most intense intra-vaginal orgasm of all the positions. For the man, he experiences a thrust that goes deep and pulls out far. The full penile stimulation combined with the vaginal spasms that occur during an intra-vaginal orgasm deliver an exceptionally intense orgasm.

The Standing Missionary

How to Do It: While laying on her back, the woman moves her pelvis until it is slightly off the edge of the bed. The man stands on the floor at the edge of the bed and lifts her legs to enter her. The woman keeps her legs bent with her knees on the outside of his chest. The man rests on his hands with straight arms above her shoulders. As he thrusts inside of the woman she rocks her pelvis in the opposite direction of his thrust. For example, as he is thrusting into the vagina, the woman is allowing her hips to fall down which brings her pelvis down across his pelvic bone. When he is on the outthrust she is rocking her pelvis back up to prepare for the next downward thrust as he reenters.

Why it Works: The angle of the penis creates and upward angle during entry and extraction. The upward angle stimulates the G-spot. When the woman rocks her hips she is stimulating her clitoris on his pelvic bone. The combination of G-spot stimulation, deep penetration, and clitoral stimulation creates the perfect formula for a mind-blowing orgasm for the woman. For him, the angle on entry and exit while thrusting adds pressure against the top of the penis on the vaginal wall and allows him to feel more sensation on his penis. This position also allows for deeper penetration than the other two, which just feels good. The combination of deep penetration and penile stimulation creates the perfect formula for an amazing orgasm for him.

The Assisted Missionary Pelvic Rock

How to Do It: You start in the High Missionary position. However, instead of the woman putting her hands on the man’s buttocks she places them with her arms wrapped under his shoulders. She then rotates her hips to be able to do the pelvic rock described in the Standing Missionary. The man places his right hand underneath her right buttocks and holds himself up with his left hand lessoning the distance between each other by bending his elbow, if desired. The man uses the thrust in the High Missionary while the woman uses the thrust in the Standing Missionary using her hands on his shoulders to assist the movement. The man assists the woman with her pelvic thrust using the hand on her buttocks.

Why it Works: The clitoral stimulation from the combination of the high missionary and the pelvic rock is deep and intense. And don’t forget the man and the woman are experiencing the noticeable movement against the vaginal wall. As the woman experiences an intra-vaginal and clitoral orgasm at the same time, the man can feel the vaginal spasms, which can lead to an intense simultaneous orgasm. And that is just a beautiful experience worth sharing.

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