THE SCIENCE OF SOUL-MATING. We each have at least three soulmates

Do you believe there is one person who is meant just for you?

I wish I had a science to tell you if soulmates are in fact real, but instead I’m just going to share my thoughts about the concept:

Have you ever met a person and without even speaking to them or knowing who they are, you get an instinct about that individual? You just get a conviction about that person, something tells you that you need to know this person and once you know them, you usually can’t Unknow them. You have an immediate connection with them the moment you start talking. You find out you could talk for hours – you find out that you are connected with that person in a way that is so rare. You just know that it’s not the typical connection because you vibe with them on a more synchronized and intense Level. As this connection develops over time, you discover a love so deep, strong and complex that sits deeply rooted and comfortably in your hearts that you start to wonder if you’ve ever truly loved prior to meeting this person. There are a few people who’s souls have an intense chemistry with ours. Their energy vibrates at exactly same level as our own. Your path cross with such people a couple of times, if you’re privileged enough, you get the chance to have them as friends or spouse. I call such people soul mates, soul brothers, soul sisters. Let’s first understand what a soul mate means according to the dictionary;

According to advanced learner dictionary, a soul mate is a person ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner.

Going further on our explanation of this concept, “A soulmateis someone that just gets you. It’s a connection of minds, a mutual respect, an unconditional love and a total understanding. It’s about being yourself and knowing, not only that person is following and understanding your thoughts, but is right there with you, side by side. That’s some magical connection.

Being able to click with someone so naturally is the best feeling ever. Feels like you’ve been best friends for years. You feel comfortable with them and have a lot in common. These person feels like home and it’s like one soul lives in two separate bodies.

However, There’s a brooding question. Especially When it comes to romance- Is there just one person suited for each person on planet earth?

After all this said, I definitely believe that soul mates exist but…..

Unfortunately, my dream of the “happily ever after” was shattered on more than one occasion. Finding “the one” turned out to be nothing like in the portrayal of Hollywood movies, and this concept seemed like a foolish fantasy sometimes so I adjusted the way I saw this.

A couple of times, when I was first in a relationship, I thought I had met “the one” as I had so much in common with that person; but somehow not everything dovetailed, and as time progressed, the relationship crumbled. I have also met some people along my life journey whom I felt such deep connections with but not always in the dating space. Some where platonic friends, some where too young or too old for me to date, some were too far away and proximity won’t let us be great, others were already married. I also met soul sisters, yes! my fellow woman who just sparks up the most amazing conversations and surprisingly has the same values as myself. At some point I was a skeptic about the idea but now I’m certain that soul mates indeed exist but I believe they exist in different people. If you agree with me, you must have met at least three people who posses the characteristics we outlined earlier.

The truth is no matter how much you feel for someone, no matter how deep your feelings run, there’s some other person who will make you feel twice as much as you feel with your current partner or best friend or mentor or mentee. At the end of the day, it boils down to respect, discipline and content. Being with the one you’re most contented with and is ready to go all the way with you is what matters. If you fall out with “the one” it doesn’t always mean he/she wasn’t your soul mate, it just means there’s a lot more to relationships than being in LOVE. The next person will certainly raise the bar if you’re lucky enough to  meet another soul mate.

So in the nutshell, I believe you are definitely doomed if you don’t marry your soul mate but the good news is that there’s more than one for everyone out there, and more importantly to note is that they exist but not only romantically. You can find them in a sibling, a friend, a mentor, teacher, a significant other.

How to recognize your soulmate: 

Most of the following are obvious signs that you have found your soul mate;

1. The feeling is strong, almost painful.

For me, the emotions were so strong that they frightened me. I couldn’t rationalize why I felt so painfully in love and deeply connected to someone in such a short space of time.

2. There is a sense of inner knowing.

It is less of a physical love at first sight and more of a deep, inner knowing. There is a sense of closeness, comfort, and intimacy from the onset. You just know

3. Mutual respect is shown.

There is an acceptance of one another.

4. Home is wherever your soulmate is.

5. You are best friends.

When you meet your soulmate, in my experience, you also meet your best friend. You “get” each other on a deeper level than you usually experience. You also share a common sense of humor and you are on the same page.

6. You challenge each other.

Your ideal partner will not only admire you for all you have done but will also open your eyes to all you can do. There is no competition between the two of you. Instead, there is a unique combination of challenge, encouragement, and support—which becomes a catalyst for support.

7. You can be apart but prefer being together.

Soulmates are able to strike the right balance between the time they spend together and the time they spend apart. They trust each other and still feel close when they are doing separate things instead of being consumed with jealousy or anxiety.

8. You are comfortable being authentic.

One of the most satisfying things about being with a soulmate is that there is no pretense—you can relax and be authentic.The buddhists says, if you meet someone and your heart pounds, your hands shake and sweats, your knees go weak and tremble, most likely that’s not the one. When you meet your soul mate, you’ll be calm. No anxiety, no agitation.

9. Have a lot in common.

I’m not saying you must agree on everything. But when it comes to the most important things in life—such as values, goals, core beliefs, and priorities—You’re on the same page

HAPPY MATING