While talking to a friend of mine who was going through a recent heart break, the conversation started to drift towards the true meaning of love. And during our late-night exchange I came to the realization that a lot of people who love each other aren’t ‘in love’ with each other.

Now there’s a difference between ‘love’ and being ‘in love’.
You can love your children, your parents, your country, your car, your job; but you can’t be ‘in love’ with them.
You can only be in love with a special someone and when you are in love with someone, that love needs to be demonstrated. Mere words are insufficient.

Being loving and caring during birthdays and anniversaries and valentine’s days is easy, but it’s the days in between that matter more. People appear more attractive when they remember the smaller details about you. Your likes and dislikes. Your worries. Your dreams. Your ambitions. Your struggle.

A lot of people mask their lack of attention to detail with gifts high in monetary value, but there is no substitute for thoughtfulness. No substitute for presence. No substitute for giving someone your time.

It really saddens to see so many seemingly loving couples not ‘in love’ with each other. A lot of people say ‘I love you‘ but not all ‘I love yous‘ are real.
Because love is not what you say… love is what you do…!