1. You are your Authority
I remember when I first became aware to the idea of ‘inner authority’, quickly followed by shock of how often I gave it away, followed by amazement of how often I saw others give it away. Whether it be individual self-worth beliefs, the narcissistic behaviour of another, or straight-up an abusive authority figure, the result is the same: (as adults) the only person that has the right to make decisions, give orders, and enforce them is YOU. Now, when you keep ‘giving’ your power away? Well that’s where the real Healing needs to happen.
When we accept that we are our only authority, we stop expecting (and asking) someone else to tell us what to do or how to fix what we perceive as broken. So get quiet, and focus inward. It’s all about asking the right questions after all.
2. Everything you need, you already have
Now that you’ve turned to that Innerscape and listened to what’s going on, what now? Well, you tell me. Our inner voice has all the answers, why? Because under all the excuses, stories, and noise, we know ourselves best. Which, yes, means we have comb through some stuff to arrive at the answers we seek. I love Yoga Nidra for this – a guided meditation which brings me into a state of observed consciousness. In that space I can truly zoom out to get clarity on the root of emotions which otherwise are overwhelming to experience when not in a meditative state.
Quieting the mind isn’t always easy, but with practice, it is possible to gain insight into answers we truly desire. Although, it’s not always what we ‘want’ to hear, I promise it will be what you need to hear.
3. Self-connection is the most important relationship we have
Now, all of this inner work has much less merit if our inner voice is spreading doubt, shame, and disapproval. Our inner dialogue is a great place to start when we are identifying which parts of ourselves we have yet to include in our healing process. The health of our relationship with Self will be projected to every other relationship we ever have. Alternatively, we can use our external relationships as a compass to navigate where in our Self-relationship we might be falling short.
Learning how to love ourselves can be a life-long journey, not to mention the work it takes to sustain that relationship. No matter how much love we get externally, if we cannot receive it internally from ourselves we will never truly feel like we belong. The better our relationship with Self, the more trust we have, the better boundaries we can create, the stronger our intuition, and so on and so forth. I believe this to be our key to being.
4. There is an entire universe of wisdom below our Mind
It always surprises me how disconnected from our bodies we can be, for being so close to them. And if you’re in my world, you know it’s not only the physical body that I’m talking about. The details aside, the Mind is our dominant thinking center, yet we rely on it for things way beyond it’s function. Almost every self-connection, grounding, or intuition strengthening meditation I’ve ever done starts with breath focus, body scan, or somehow getting out of the mind and into the body. Feel first, process later.
The heart, the gut, more than half the Chakras reside below the head – it is incredibly important for our healing process to spend quality time there. Since emotions have an effect on many layers of the body, we cannot forget to include them in our healing process. Check in with different parts of the body, you might be surprised by the connection.
5. It doesn’t have to be done alone
Just because we are fully capable of doing this work ourselves, does not mean we need to be in solidarity. In fact, some of this work becomes more powerful done in a group setting. We feel more collectively connected, more purposeful, even put at ease to know that other people are in the same boat. It can also be super valuable to try something new that may feel uncomfortable (of course you need to feel safe in your relationship to Self in order to know that threshold). Being vulnerable and supportive at the same time offers a very unique, empowering experience that I wish everyone to feel.
Emotions, self-development experiences, and healing work is abstract and unpredictable. Whether you choose to share your journey with others or take a more private approach is within your right. As a healer, I help my clients find out what they need, and from there, they heal themselves.
Lastly, I am a full believer in finding ways of healing that work for you with where you’re at. The ways and vices we use to heal is so individual and situational so please know there is zero judgement here. If talk therapy is a part of your journey, there is nothing wrong with that. My intention is to expand your perception of yourself in hopes that after reading this you feel more love, respect, and connection towards who you are, and are empowered to take aligned action in your healing journey.
If are interested in learning more about the self-led work I do with clients, I invite you to check out ways to work together here
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