I know what you desire and I am with you everywhere. 

Hold in your mind all that you wish to know, and

I will teach you.

~Poimandres, in Corpus Hermeticum

As a kid, I often studied a painting hung on my parent’s bedroom wall.

In it, an angel hovers just above a young boy and girl playing near the edge on a cliff of rocks with a serene smile, arms and wings open in a protective gesture—a guardian angel.

Creation myths in many cultures have us attached to a divine being from birth, our spiritual other half—a twin, who in Sufism is called “An Angel of One’s Being.” The Greeks named it their “genius,” and the Romans called their helpful spirit a “daemon.”  In alchemy and shamanism, one’s healing spirit is referred to as the “ally.”  Carl Jung lived in connection with his ally, whose name was Philemon.

By any name in any tradition, the ally offers spiritual partnership, guidance, growth and transformation, and wishes to know us as we wish to know it.

Some of us as children, with our natural connection to spirit and dreams, may have had a childhood encounter with this being, but we often forget it, or are talked out of it. Some may have experienced it as an intuition during a time of stress when clear, split second advice was needed. Or, we might know this guidance as inspiration—a feeling that comes over us when we’re creating, helping us make our music, write our words.

Even now as I’m writing about it more than experiencing connection to it, I can remember times I’ve felt the ally as a real thing: a personal yoga teacher, helping me as I practice alone in my room, reminding me to breathe, telling me to balance the weight in my feet. Or as a companion on the hill I hike near my home, speaking with me, providing insights along the way when it can get a word in and I am able to listen.

Many first meet their ally in a dream.

 How to differentiate your ally

There are many helpful figures in the psyche and in dreams. So what marks an ally encounter in a dream or elsewhere?

People will say they notice a difference in the way the figure feels in the dream. You may feel that you’re in a holy place, and may have a sense of being recognized. You sense the other has a deep knowing of you, and it feels like sheer relief and love. It is powerful, and its presence in your dream might scare you. I’ve heard of people having to fight or wrestle with this being over the course of several dreams before being able to interact in a relational way.

And don’t use me as a model for what to do, but years ago when I sensed my ally’s presence (who presented as a black jaguar) at the doorway of my bedroom at the end of a particularly distressing dream, I put the covers over my head, shook my head no and told it to go away. It did not. Instead, it came to my bedside. When I touched its head it felt every bit as solid and real as if I were touching my dog’s head. This is another hallmark of an ally encounter: real and solid.

Pay special attention when you dream of an animal. The literature (Native American and Shamanism) is full of accounts of one’s spirit guide appearing as an animal. Large snakes are common, as are big cats (lions, jaguars, panthers, etc.), mythological figures (some sort of winged-thing, like a dragon, or a flying horse), or strange combinations of species which don’t exist as far as you know. One of my student’s ally presented as an odd-looking bat/raccoon type of animal which kept appearing in his dreams, handing him unique and unusual tools to help him craft in his blacksmith-like workshop.

I’ve also heard of people’s ally being the sun, or a mountain.

How to connect

In order to receive guidance and counsel from our ally, we have to create a relationship—connect with it, attend to it. 

Treat your relationship to the ally like a new friendship. Ask him/her/it to come into your dreams, writing, meditations, and yoga. Be sincere in your intention to meet.  Engage in some dialogue in your head or on paper (preferably on paper as these interactions are as easy to forget as dreams): What would you say to someone you’re first meeting? Hello is always a good start.

Introduce yourself, “I’m Linda. Nice to meet you.”

Yes you will feel foolish doing this; I realize this technically constitutes psychosis, but you may or may not hear back something like, “Nice to meet you too,” only it’s likely this voice (if you hear the response as a voice) will sound lower, slower, calmer than your own. Deep, strong, grounded.

The common thought that you’re making it all up will likely be dispelled by looking back on your talks. You will notice an otherness to the voice, tone or vocabulary that is not yours.

Or you may receive a response from any of the senses: you might see images or feel sensations in your body.  Consider anything that happens after you ask a question a response to it.

Manners are important.  Don’t start demanding that your ally do all kinds of magic things for you, fix all the areas of your life. Your ally will not take away hardships or challenges, but will offer you assistance on how to deal with those hardships. In the ally, you can find a constant friend and partner.

*Anything I know about the ally I credit to my teacher, and my ally.

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