If you were just broken up with by a boyfriend or girlfriend, you might be anxiously asking yourself if it’s over for good between the two of you.

You likely wonder if you will ever hear from him/her again or if you will cross their mind again at all.

After nearly twenty years in the relationship-recovery industry, I can tell you that it is unlikely and even impossible that your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend will forget you.

I know that is a concern, but ask yourself if you have actually “forgotten,” people with whom you were in a serious relationship.

You haven’t.

That doesn’t mean that you didn’t lose feelings and emotional attraction for them, but you didn’t forget about them.

So, as I wrote in another article, don’t panic if you were just dumped. What is going on right now in the heart and mind of your ex is what he or she feels in the moment.

It is not necessarily representative of how they will feel in the future.

When you allow them time and space to miss you, you unlock a world of future potential.

Until your ex gets to truly experience the breakup, he or she can’t know that it is actually wanted.

It is highly likely that the breakup won’t be the positive experience that they thought it would be.

If you give them the true breakup experience, it’s very possible that they will realize that they don’t want it.

The key is that you do give them the breakup.

That you stop treating them like a boyfriend or girlfriend and allow them the silence and space of a breakup or else they won’t truly experience it and can’t miss you.

The reason this is effective is because they must miss you in order to be motivated to make an effort to get back together with you and I write about this often in my articles.

It will probably be difficult but consider that it will likely be difficult for them as well.

That is necessary in order for them to want to end the breakup and restore the relationship.

So one thing to tell yourself for encouragement is that if it is difficult for you, then the potential is there for it to be difficult for your ex as well and, unfortunately, it must be in order for them to be motivated enough to get back together with you.

So is it over between the two of you?

I wish I could provide an exact answer in this article.

What I can tell you is as long as the two of you are still on this earth, there is a potential for the two of you to be a couple again.

It’s a marathon, not a sprint.