Addicted.

Are you addicted to being unhappy? Unhappiness can cause a lot of suffering. Unfortunately, when we get into the habit of being unhappy, it becomes our personality. And, nobody wants that! So, how do we know if we’re addicted to unhappiness?

The Signs.

1. You look outside yourself for happiness.

If you’re unhappy, you only have yourself to blame. That’s the reality. We think that people who are happy are just lucky. And, this implies that happiness is found somewhere outside of ourselves.

So, if you spend your life waiting for someone else to make you happy, you’ll always be let down. Material wealth is not the answer either. It’s wonderful to have nice things, but they’ll never bring you lasting happiness.

When you’re truly happy and grateful for what you have, you won’t need to fill your life with stuff. Ironically, this is when the Universe will send you the most abundance!

2. You wait for the future.

Sometimes we fall into the trap of thinking, I’ll be happy when _____. (You can fill it in.) If you believe this, you’ll always be unhappy. Of course it’s fun to look forward to things, but how do you know that what you’re waiting for is the answer?

Life is happening right now, so don’t waste it! And, your ability to create an amazing life depends on what you do in this moment. When you live fully in the now, opportunities present themselves because you’re paying attention!

3. You resist what’s happening.

If you resist what’s happening in your life, you will suffer. And, when you’re unhappy, it’s easy to fall into a victim mentality: complaining, making excuses, and blaming others.

Remember, we’re not here for life to make us happy. Life is supposed to challenge us. So, when something is difficult, consider it a gift. And, although life’s hardships can push us to our limits, they’re essential for our growth.

4. You give too much power to your ego.

Our egos cause most of our problems. The ego is the negative voice in our head that tells us we are separate from each other. Ego driven people have a me mentality. They argue, compete, compare, and have to be right. As a result, they’re always unhappy.

It’s not a sign of weakness to put another person first. Actually, it’s a sign of strength. So, when you’re feeling unhappy, do nice things for the people you love, or commit a random act of kindness. Your mood will lift immediately, and you’ll also make someone else’s day!

5. Not improving or growing.

Unhappiness creeps in when life gets boring. Challenging ourselves is what makes life worth living! So, be happy for people who aren’t afraid to face their fears and try new things. But, don’t just cheer them on, go out there and join them!

Everyone experiences highs and lows in life, and sometimes times we fall short. But, have the courage to pick yourself up again. Overcoming our fears and refusing to give into negativity builds character and helps us grow into the person we’re meant to be!