“Most human beings have an almost infinite capacity for taking things for granted.”
— Aldous Huxley
Someone asked me to write this piece long ago and here I am pouring my writer’s heart today for some very personal reason. It’s funny, but have you ever noticed that the more special something is, the more people seem to take it for granted?
It’s like they think it won’t ever change. You begin to forget what it means to you. You forget how you have been without it. You forget how you used to feel back then. And now when you have it to yourself, you dwell in unimportant things forgetting the promises you made out of choice. You take the security they bring with them for granted and that too early on… right from the beginning… you begin to take them for granted.

And with them you take for granted the feeling of steadiness, of hands that do not shake, heads that do not ache, throats not raw with bile and small rips of fingernails forced to haste to the gag spot. Stomachs that do not begin to wake up in the night, calves and thighs knotting in muscles that are beginning to eat away at themselves. You don’t go through anymore because you have them right beside you, or a call away, or a text away and what you do by taking them for granted is showing them that their presence is just good to keep themselves safe from being miserable.

WOW! Quite an effort you put in making and breaking your life, time and again. Emotions prosper when they get a consistent environment. Nothing grows out of chaos and convenience. If you are in love, you ought to give it priority over everything else. Because love doesn’t offer you very many takes at it. And  sometimes the fear of losing love drives people to do crazy things. Like buy a plane ticket. Make a phone call. Run out of office. Cry. Drink. Write. Laugh. Thats what love makes you do, taking them for granted will make you move away, will make you sway. When you take them for granted, you also take your own love for them for granted.

When you say something, when you commit to a plan, do not alter it for the world. Stay on it. When you stay on your words you show reliability. You show that you mean everything you say. When you alter it for other things it shows a pattern of being frivolous and casual. And believe you me no one who is in love wants their relationship casual. Do you?
When they do something for you. Cook, make your home better, write for you…to you…about you, take good care of your family when you are not around, acknowledge them. It will just take a few minutes of your time to say or write back or post or call but it will mean the world to them because you are whom they are doing all this for. Don’t make them feel small. If they can make time to do it, you can at least find 1/100th time to make sure you reciprocate the gesture. After all if you want anything to stay with you, a feeling , a thought or a person, you have to keep working on it.

Love is such an amazing thing. Don’t take it for granted. It won’t always grant your wishes. Make time. Everyone in a great relationship does. You wont make an exception but you will make your relationship exceptional. Be true to everything you said yes to. Deliver your promises. At all costs.