This article addresses the general subject of most of us want to know : finding and keeping love in our lives.

 

Love is sweet when it’s new, but it is sweeter when it’s true.

I personally don’t know if it’s it good or not to fall in love fast, but I know that love can be quick when it is magical.

Does that mean we should jump headfirst with that person ?

Falling in love fast is easy. Giving someone an orgasm fast is easy too.

But when is the last time that you fall in love with someone before having sex? 

Many people think they’ve found the one just because the first few months of love and sex have been perfect, but what happens when passion fade ? Is sex the main thing to share ?

Falling head over heels in love means, to many people, having sex as soon as possible. The rush of infatuation leads people to take the next steps, just after having spent a few hours together.

Chaotic and impulsive series of entries and exits relationships are the norms today. Dating applications are not helping the trend.

Everyone after breaking up, is always hoping that the next time, it will be better, however, many people find themselves almost instantly in a new and similar passionate relationship.

To exit such inconvenience, I decided to slow down, to be in a different tempo that this fast love trend and to enter less into unsatisfied stories. Today, the connection between the timing of when I will have sex depends on the quality of the relationship before sexual activities. I like to take time and examine the one in front of me, and if I start to feel the desire to know all about this person – cultivating the tension and curiosity to discover his world, what he sings, how he chooses his clothes, what matters for him, what are his tastes in general and also learning about his faults and loving him despite his past. When I start to accept and love everything then I will certainly spend more times with him and I will most likely have a sex experience that will be special for both.

Jumping straight to sex feels insecure for me and abusing, because it just satisfy an urge for selfish pleasures without knowing if that can hurt if then you can most likely ignored that person again. Also you will skip over the beautiful details about really meeting someone deep, knowing their expressions, their feelings, thoughts and feel the rareness of someone is more spiritual than any sexual complicated practices.

What happens today that now couples move so quickly into sexual relationship? When the slower the lead-up to sex is built, the better the relationship and the sex is.

I love those weeks of exploring someone new, I feel a deep connection with myself as well by diving into a new universe that resonates with my own frequency. 

When couples are led by sexual desire, financial need, they are less likely to examine whether they share similar life, values, goals and emotional balance together.

Don’t just rush in, take time to fall in love, because almost all the time love doesn’t happen at first sight, infatuation does.

It takes time, and that’s the way it should be. Try it, test the waters and even if it doesn’t feel right, don’t give up easily because the earth has a lot of water and there is plenty of fish in the sea. And somewhere out there, there’ll be a fish that’s meant just for you. Let your love blossom and fill your life one day at a time.

Make yourself sacred, make sex as a sacred ritual and don’t rush for it – don’t do it all the time that it doesn’t taste good anymore, relish every bites and enhance yourself with someone else in a beautiful union. Because if you rush everything and damage someone, you damage yourself even more. The first intention to have while engaging with someone is to make this person happier that you found him/her – and not the other way around. 

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For a chance to be with you…

For a chance at loving you…

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Sophie Foucher