When you look hard enough, you can learn lessons about love everywhere in your life. Here’s my latest epiphany…

A few months ago, my son bought me an electric toothbrush. It has an 80-second built-in timer – 20 seconds x four, with pauses so you can switch and brush each section of your teeth.

I’m an impatient person. I’m always thinking about ‘what’s next’. So, at first, I was impatient with this toothbrush. With my regular old-fashioned toothbrush, I probably spent 20 seconds total on brushing. 80 seconds felt like an eternity!

But then, I relaxed into it. I slowed down. I appreciated the extra care my teeth were getting. It was meditative and relaxing, an act of self-care.

And then it hit me…what if we applied this tooth brushing wisdom to our love lives?

If we slowed down the dating process, we would all benefit.

– Slowing down our anxiety about where this is going after a few dates
– Slowing down the need to know whether you’re sexually compatible before you even get involved
– Slowing down the need to have him or her text back right away
– Slowing down the need to share too much about ourselves on the first or second date.

Slowing down actually speeds up our ability to attract in the love we seek.

How? We come to love with a stronger sense of self, with the ability to separate the chemical bond we might feel from what really matters – a person’s consistency in showing up with kindness and compassion over and over again.

We listen better – with our ears AND our sixth sense. We trust our intuition to know what’s best for us.

When we slow down, we become clear about the difference between love and lust.

What would be possible in your love life if you slowed down?