Well, #$# me.

This morning I noticed a comment under one of my videos that pointed out my swearing. Why, yes, I DO swear sometimes but I don’t swear on purpose. I don’t say out loud, hmmm who can I f$%^ing offend today by choosing “f bombs” in this sentence and this next one? It just comes out and yes, I am feeling quite defensive about it. Why?

Because it triggered my shame.

And we all know that shame and judgement are fear-based and they arise within when we are triggered by someone, some energy or words that awaken our deeply hidden traumas and our  beliefs from our childhood.

We may have been brought up Christian or Catholic (like myself). Maybe our Grandma’s said that swearing was reserved for sailors or that it’s vulgar, trashy or rude to swear. We are all filled up with our own belief system and if we aren’t careful, we may let it run our entire lives. These beliefs limit each of us in some way; big or small, and can stop us from achieving greatness. Just ask the guy who lives in the same type of lack mentality he did growing up or the person who was told that money doesn’t grow on trees and now she has no money.  When we are told something repeatedly and over a lifetime, these words become programmed deeply in to our subconscious. Our subconscious is unable to filter the information coming in. Whatever you tell it, it automatically stores it in your memory and cells and that becomes your truth.

But I have very important news for you.

Just because you believe something to be true for you, does not mean it is true for another. Or that it is even true at all.

I have struggled with this my entire life. I have always believed that when others around me don’t believe the same as I do, that:

1. There is something wrong with me or them.
2. The other person really needs to step it up and come to “where I am.”
3. They aren’t working on themselves and still have wounds left to heal.
4. I need to take everything personally.
5. They are/I am very judgemental and I am being judged.

Looking at d) I still feel extremely judged when someone makes a comment that my swearing isn’t “spiritual” and a million other comments I see when I post something. There are many successful spiritual leaders who make a great living dropping f bombs. There are some who don’t swear at all and maybe they say doo doo or poopy. How does that equate to not being spiritual? I feel that being spiritual means you are messy, you are healing, you are of service, you share the knowledge you are remembering the more you awaken, you heal again, you work on your sh$@ (sorrry not sorry) and you keep going. We are all spiritual. Even the guy or woman who doesn’t believe there is anything other than what they can see with their eyes and can touch. Guess what? Still spiritual because they are a soul inhabiting a body and come from the universe. That is as spiritual as you can get. So if we are all one consciousness, (which we are) how can we allow our  human ego and fear programs determine what spirituality looks like for everyone else? Go ahead. Ask God or Source or the universe if  you aren’t worthy because of one or two swear words you happen to drop when you stub your toe or your anger is so rage-y that you have to drive in your car screaming “F#@@@##$k” the whole way until you  feel better? There is even a meditation called F@$K IT. A MEDITATION.

Judgement is just fear and when we are judging others in big or small ways, that is a call to action to go within. Go read Judgement Detox by Gabby. Go meditate and pick out which beliefs are serving you and which are no longer true. Only love is real. That means judgement is not.

I say spirituality can look like anything you want it to be as long as you more often in the energy of love and less in the energy of looking outside yourself and taking offence by what others say or do. I invite you to notice when you are silently judging another next time you go out. We all do it. But then I want you to imagine that same person in a bright white starry light. Because the lens of love is truer than your judgement. We need to keep healing these parts of ourselves and open the door to understanding and respecting the beliefs of others. Let’s heal this SH@$ together.