The masculine desires to pursue the feminine,

The feminine desires to be pursued by the masculine.

Unimpeded by societal suppression, the movement to initiate, to engage and to penetrate, is in the nature of the masculine.

Unhindered by cultural limitations, the movement to seduce, to tantalize, and to invite, is the domain of the feminine.

The dance between the pursuer and the pursued is a captivating, archetypal and intoxicating spectacle.

It inspires art, drives passion and creates life itself.

For the pursuit to commence, the feminine first needs to open to receiving the male’s seeking.

She needs to let him know, that she is interested in being sought.

Seduction, is the name given to the feminine process of revealing an alluring aspect of herself.

One that tantalizes and calls the masculine into a pursuit.

The feminine will only offer an opening that is more subtle than the current bandwidth of relating.

A surreptitious glance, her tone of laughter, the movement of her body, a flicking of her hair, or an energetic opening to a more intimate part of herself.

Just outside the current mode of conversation.

And the implicit, natural expectation to the male then becomes;
‘Tune into my signal and respond, then, I might open deeper to you’.

If you have the eyes to see, you may pursue
If instead her invitation is clearly evident, if it is explicitly broadcast, than it becomes an overt, and direct masculine offering, a pursuit it in its own right.

In that, there is emasculation.

It is the masculine’s job and gift, to dial his radar into her frequency, to pick up on the offering, and to risk initiating energy towards her.

When she is closed, there can be no such interplay.

She tests his patience, to stay with her until she she welcomes an advance.

If he asserts prematurely to the invitation, his energy is an unwelcome visitor.

And if he continues anyway, it becomes a hunt rather than a pursuit

The feminine then turns into prey rather than a muse

The interaction then becomes at the least a disrespectful violation, and at worst, a rape.

And hence the rise of feminism, and ‘No means No’, and MeToo and rightly so.

And all because the masculine, has numbed himself from the connection to his empathy, his world of feelings, that place from which he can reach out and tune into the energetic language of the feminine.

Lost to his ability to sense her invitation and consent, he fumbles in the dark, either trampling her boundaries or withdrawing and waiting on her to come to him.

He mistakes friendliness for romantic invitation, and her self-protective reserved-ness as hostility or disinterest.

And yet, he still hungers to pursue, as she does to seduce, and be pursued.

‘Vulnerability and Kindness is the new sexy’, she cries out from her lack of safety, calling out to the masculine.

Yet in order to avoid toxicity, he has swung the pendulum too far in the opposite direction, birthing ‘nice’ masculinity.

Men, who, to afraid to scare the feminine away, have temporarily suppressed their assertive, commanding, and pursuing natures, leaving a sweet, yet surface nicety, in order to engage in pseudo relationships with women.

Vulnerability connects one to his feminine, to his world of feeling, to his empathy, making him safe to relate to.

But it does not penetrate, it does not entice nor excite.

Within the space of safety, it is the edgy, assertive, masculine energy, that creates arousal.

Soft Heart, Hard Spine, is the Safe Sexy formula.

So, rather than handcuffing our natural polarities within rigid social policies, we can divorce them from unhealthy gender stereotypes: Hunting can become Pursuit, Manipulation turn into Seduction, Dominance into Leading and Subservience into Yielding.