You ever hear that one song? It keeps playing in my head. Break ups suck, it is terrible thing it is absolutely horrible. You could point the finger and say all the things they have done to hurt you, but what will that solve what will that accomplish? Ah, well, time to get the introspection and growth going, so here are three things you can do to help yourself cope with a breakup.

The first thing is meditate, my number one activity for anyone to do more is meditate. Yes, of course you can go to your friends and complain about what happened. Surely you could down talk them and make yourself feel awesome for a moment. But honestly, it changes nothing and you would only be hurting yourself. You are spewing the negative words; negative words means negative thoughts, which means negative energy for you, not them. In that manner you would only destroy yourself. Trust the process and figure your mind out because building yourself is much better than tearing them down.

The second thing is fast, yup fast as in don’t eat as in don’t drown your sorrow in food as in don’t pig out while watching your favorite childhood movie. Look, I get it; you want to cry. That is fine, but you shouldn’t occupy your mind with movies and delicious mint choco ice cream because that is the comfort, and when your comfortable, you cant grow. When you can’t grow in your mind, then the only place you are going to grow is your body, and you do not want that.

The final thing is focus on the next chapter, it is effortless to get caught up in the why this happened; I could have done this or that maybe if I talk to them.. errr stop right there. Look what you want to do is focus on what your next goal is seriously next goal new place new car traveling somewhere, figure out what you wish, and DO IT. If we get caught up for too long, thinking of what could have been. Stagnation is the opposite of life, life is movement and progression DO NOT STAGNATE.

I know there will be days when you don’t want to go out, and much less even get out of bed. But listen, you have to give yourself time to adjust. Especially if this was a cohabitation kind of situation. Do yourself a favor and get outside feel the sun on that beautiful skin, let that wind flow through that luscious hair, and just smile and be thankful. You are going through this challenging process, but you will become a more substantial person and understand yourself more genuinely.