We’re all searching for love and our other half.

We look for the person with whom we can share our dreams, desires, and hopes. We want a forever love that bonds us with the other person, so we can stay happy and bring out the best in each other.

Without true love, we might feel alone or empty.

Love fills empty hearts and heals tired souls. After being married for more than 30 years, I have realized that love is an essential part of our sexual experiences as well.

When sex is combined with love, it’s called “making love.” That said, there is a difference between “making love” and “having sex.”

Pure physical sex without any emotions involved only translates our body’s desires. When we have an orgasm, it ends there because our body is finally satisfied.

But when we make love, our bodies, emotions, and souls merge, and it’s more enjoyable. When we touch, we feel like we complete each other, and it almost feels eternal. Lovemaking doesn’t end when the physical act ends. It’s continuous, and it grows stronger with time.

Sex with the right person feels extraordinary, and it’s the greatest expression of our love and commitment. My husband and I both agree that our sexual experiences are exceptional because we love each other, care for each other, and we are both honest, loyal, and present.

Here’s how we can turn our lovemaking into a magical experience:

1. Don’t make love out of obligation or to solely please our partner when we don’t feel like it. We should be in the mood for intimacy so we don’t feel abused, anxious, or stressed.

2. Make time to talk to each other. Having conversations and spending time together are an essential component for a healthy sexual life.

3. We shouldn’t be afraid to discuss our sexual needs. Be honest, straightforward, and speak freely about what we prefer and like in bed. Doing this brings partners closer together.

4. To have the best sexual experience, we must allow our hearts to be present with our bodies. Sex is an emotional process as much as it is physical.

5. We should surrender and let our bodies act and move in the way they please.

6. We should let our partner know when we feel satisfied and happy during sex.

7. For sex to be healthy, we shouldn’t be selfish. We must do our best to respect each other’s desires and make sure that our partner’s needs are met as well.

8. Practicing vulnerability in sex is a game changer. Tell each other how lovable and valuable you are to each other when making love.

9. When we go to bed together, we must leave our problems out. We should stay in a positive mood so we don’t hurt our partner with our negativity and create a painful distance from them. Get rid of thoughts that are harmful and harbor ones that are kind.

10. Good sex needs time. Don’t rush or pressure yourself into something you’re not ready for.

11. Cuddle and seduce each other before sex to make our experience more enjoyable. Kissing and touching are important gestures—we shouldn’t underestimate their power.

12. Trusting our bodies and being confident in bed is miraculous. Lack of self-worth can complicate the act of sex, making it more difficult for partners to connect with each other.

13. Romance is key in sex. Our sexual experience is always better when we compliment each other. We should always tell our partner how attractive they are, regardless of the time we’ve been together.

14. Breaking out of our sex routine is a must, because it kills the most successful relationships. We need to spice things up with new words, positions, games, and experiments. It brings about many healthy benefits, and we feel like our relationship is renewed.

15. Last but not least, we should stay open to transformation. With age, our bodies change, and we should respect all the phases they go through. Physical change doesn’t mean we shouldn’t be confident enough or stop having sex. Go along with your new transformation and respect it.