Are people really so naive to expect a one line answer or they really want to know how you are doing?
Is it a superficial interest or they really want to dig deep into your psychic, physiological and emotional space.
Do they really expect a detailed, comprehensive and heartfelt response or they just expect a one word reply “FINE” or “GOOD” or even “GREAT” from you.
Well, I as a person was always bewildered by this question since my childhood and I still wonder about the exact logic behind the most SOBER yet MOST BAFFLING question.
A doubt on this may seem discourteous and uncivilized but seriously give it a thought, you will agree with me somewhere in the tiniest corner of your heart.
I have always found it very strenuous to answer.
We may say “I’m good” but I feel its not a sincere reply to those who really care but again it’s difficult to distinguish and we are used to answer this way. We have been taught to answer this way.
We don’t know what else to be said. Sometimes I say “I’m okay” thinking it means, I’m little low or not so okay, but again it’s my definition or my way of understanding. I don’t know what the other person perceives.
There are times when we try to communicate through silence with people close to our heart and we simply remain silent hoping the other one will read the ripples below the surface, we don’t say a word leaving them to realise.
But, What if we start replying,Oh! I had a really bad day at work, I have a sprain or toothache, I’m going through relationship issues or I have acne breakouts because this is how normal people are.
Trust me you will be addressed as a maniac because a hypocritical answer is all that’s expected from you. Everyone is busy, who has time to listen to your boring stuff?
So, what should be done?
Honestly! No idea, I don’t know and I am not up with some solution or magic trick.
I’m here with a wish, a wish for every being, I wish everyone of us should have few people around to understand the subtle voices behind the silence, to rescue us from sinking in a self made pool of grief.
Each one should be blessed with family and friends who just don’t ask how are you, they know it themselves.
There is no serene feeling greater than this one belief that you are blessed with such kindred souls.
I wish every person finds plenty of them.