I don’t really believe in destiny.
We are the creators of our lives every single day and most of the pains and sufferings are just results of our attitude. Life indeed is full of uncontrollable events. Yet, in most situations, the only thing we really can control is the attitude we choose to respond with.

When you really take the time to think about it, everything happening around us is neutral, until the point that we give it meaning. No matter what you’re going through, it’s all about choosing the right questions and the right answers to them:

Will I allow this to upset me?
Will I choose to make this a bad or a good lesson?
Will I choose to stay or walk away?
Will I choose to yell or whisper?
Will I choose to react or take the time to respond?

Sometimes changing the present situation isn’t possible. You can’t get to a new job in an instant. You can’t make someone change against his or her will. And you definitely can’t change the past. But…
You can always choose your attitude towards this. And this is something you can control. This is, almost always, the only thing you can control.

So, when in doubt and anger, ask yourself: Is this really a problem for me? Is it my problem? Can I overlook this?

Let’s be honest, a negative attitude is the biggest enemy of the present moment. It does nothing but steals your joy, hurts you and the ones you care about.
When you spend time arguing, you’re simply using your energy for the wrong purpose. You are meant to be caring and loving, respecting, and cherishing the ones close to you. Your voice is meant to speak words of love and encouragement. Your hands are made to caress and nourish.

Understand that, somewhere within you, there is a higher self who is always in peace. You have it in you for sure.

Because inner peace doesn’t depend on external conditions or others’ reactions. It’s what remains when you’ve surrendered your ego and worries. Peace can be found within you at any place and at any time. It’s always there, patiently waiting for you to turn your attention toward it.

Peace of mind arrives the moment you come to peace with what’s on your mind. It happens when you let go of the need to be anywhere but where you are, physically and emotionally. This acceptance of the way things are, creates harmony.
The need for something or someone to be different in this moment is nothing more than the ego who wants to control and this simply leads to hurting yourself.

It’s always the right time to embrace the present and just accept it right here, right now. Only then, you have the power to focus on your challenges and opportunities more mindfully … and change everything in the long-run!

So again, please think about it:
Who would you be and what else would you see, if you erased the thought that’s making you angry NOW?
If you just could shut down the Ego and listen to the one in front of you, would you see a beloved one or just another enemy?

Nothing is as strong as kindness. And it takes a lot of courage to be gentle these days.
May peace live in your hearts.