Being a gay male is a roll of the dice that not everybody gets, well, everyone is unique in their own way and sexuality comes in as many colors as they are beings on this planet. In Gay culture, Top or Bottom could win the top ten used sentences in the dating scene. As broad and general this ‘either, or’ approach to sexual desires may sound, it still gives us some clues. Maybe a more conscious way to communicate that curiosity though, would b hitting it off with a more subtle approach to how we can pleasure each other. All that said, in this article, we are looking at how being a bottom in the gay community looks, feels, and tastes like (if you want to give your mouth a go for the sake of your partner’s euphoria). Specifically how gay bottoms are in touch with their bodies, facilitated by their sexuality.

As we all know ,since we all have an anus in the average human embodiment, but holes are in need of more care and relaxation to be sexually excited as compared to vaginas. They are tighter, more muscular, and right, they connect to the same parts of our body where that 16 inch pizza went.

When a gay male decides to bottom, it is usually a series of events leading to the ultimate experience of blooming under the glory of a “lingam” (Sanskrit for penis in conscious living culture). Starting from watching what you eat and when you eat, to being fully in touch with every muscle cell in your rectum.

After taking care of the food part, comes the cleaning part, some swear by the soapy finger, some use a douche. Depending on you and your partner(s) dynamics, you might have come to a level of comfort that these procedures look unique to the states of your relationship. I believe there should always be space for some brownie there, no matter how much we strive to be as clean as possible, the body’s natural comfort should be respected, I’m not saying that absolutely sterile anal sex is not possible, in fact, it very much is and the occasions of that chocolate topped lingam is not as usual as you might think. It is more for the receiver’s mental comfort that we want to hold space for that, It’s a series of those ‘what ifs’ that barely happen. Sometimes the heat hits out of no where and there is a more probability for other stuff to be in the way. ‘Cleanliness’ is not all that we are talking about here. There is the yoga related muscular relaxation to it as well.

“She is a wild, tangled forest with temples and treasures concealed within.”

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Either looking at the symbolic, tantric union of the masculine and the feminine when a man opens its root to another man to penetrate its being, or you want to simply look at how much mastery it takes to relax the root and play with a lingam with your muscles beyond the daily sensory rectum experience. It is just like practicing a Mula Bandha in Yogic sciences where you gain control and mastery over you pelvic muscles and anus. There is no doubt that bottoms, whether they know it or not, are already on a natural yogic path to a deeper mastery of communion with their bodies and energies.

As we see here, energy flows, food and physical sensations are great aspects shared between a good bottoming experience and a yoga flow. The experience of yoking different forces and bringing consciousness into your body can feel like a spiritual leap. There are so many subtler and more physical aspects to exploring bottoming for another man and be pleasured by it. Don’t be afraid to be explorative, there is always a first time for every thing. Thanks for reading this far and if you are interested in Seven tips to have a better bottoming experience, go ahead and take a look.

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