Is this over rated?

I’m all for Romance, long lasting Love, Idealism and devotion in happy ever ending stories. However, I’m grounded enough to know it takes a long way and a lot of inner work to forget what’s been said and what’s been done while believing that people will never forget how you made them feel.
Is it forgotten or simply not appreciated? Or dare I say, not true?
I guess it depends on each particular person.
Is the way someone makes you feel a temporary thing?

The truth is, even in the most beautiful love stories that fall apart, the way you made them feel just isn’t enough. It’s never enough when it crumbles. When it’s easily interfered with.

And when that happens, you know it’s never been solid in the first place.

No matter the words that were said, no matter the actions that were taken.
When skin on skin fails, when the lies start, when the communication grounds fail, everything else is useless.

When passion is overcome by indifference, when the emotional connection is easily cut, whatever there was… wasn’t. Because when it’s real… it holds. It shakes heavily. But it doesn’t collapse.
It doesn’t get to the point in which it just ends and it’s natural to move on as if nothing has happened.
When all the right words are said, all the right actions are done, and apparently all the right feelings were there… how does one simply shield himself in absence and unapologetic disdain?
How does one go from telling you “I love you, I want to marry you and have a baby” and spoiling you with love, life and vulnerability, to dismissing you, to ignoring you?
So I questioned if people really remembered how we made them feel… maybe they were fake feelings. Maybe they were never feelings and you mistook illusions for feelings.

Or maybe your naiveness and will to love, fell in the hands of a sophisticated selfish, borderline narcissistic, personality. Maybe even with a hint of manipulative traits, which he might not even be consciously aware of.
And so the feelings you thought you could feel, see, touch… fall into a mysterious pit of intertwined conversations, people, lies and assumptions all together.
Human behavior is complex, multi-layered, where nothing is obvious.

And Love seems to be the most complex emotion of all, when in fact, it’s the simplest one.

The one in which we just turn into silly people whose “in love” hormones replace any ability to process and address an issue with the right approach… as if there was one when it comes to the L word.

We need time to distance ourselves for clarity, for guidance, for purpose.
It takes confidence and courage to believe in yourself even when everything around you tells you you’re not good enough.

And yet, you’re still standing. Shaking. But not collapsing.

Trust your roots. Trust your strength.

And know it doesn’t come from external validation from people or situations.

It comes from your work in yourself. So do it. I’m learning too. Learning my inner journey. Learning my value. Learning not to hold on to bitterness. Learning to let go.

Learning to be fearless while fighting my inner demons.

It’s a never ending work.