One thing I have learned over the years is the need to protect my energy.

If you trust your intuition, someone’s energy will speak to you far more than their words. We need to pay close attention to when our energy is increasing and decreasing around people. It’s our hint from the universe as to whom we should embrace and whom we would be better distancing ourselves from.

“I am learning to compose my own energy. Emotions happen, but feelings are fed. I honour what my emotions have come to tell me and I embrace my power to feed the feelings that I want. I am the composer of my inner harmony.”

I have made the mistake in the past of allowing everyone to access my energy, as I didn’t understand it, nor did I know how to stop it. Oftentimes, this left me drained and exhausted. What we need to understand is because we are energy and we all emit a vibration or a certain frequency, our energy can be affected and attached to people we have had past connections with. So, although we may not be in current physical contact, we can still be energetically connected—and this can also affect us. It’s important to clear our energy regularly.

How can you clear your energy field?

A couple of things I do are smudging, a swim in the ocean, or a magnesium bath, meditation, visualising protective energy around me, essential oils, crystals, and grounding in nature. I understand for many people this may not make sense or maybe you think it’s all a bit hocus-pocus, and that’s okay, but if you’re interested in understanding energy, you might be surprised at what you learn and how much actual sense it makes.

When emotional energy gets stuck, it can cause all sorts of issues to our well-being and perhaps further intervention such as energy healing modalities like Reiki, Kinesiology, and Neuro Emotional Technique (NET) can be particularly beneficial.

Another thing to be wary of are people who are attracted to your energy to fill their own cups. Most of the time, they are unaware of the reason they are drawn to you, the need to be near you, but they know it makes them feel happier, better, or whatever other positive feelings they get from your presence.

The issue is not them filling their cups with your energy, but rather the depletion this leaves you with if you are not getting reciprocated energy. We’ve all heard the term “energy vampires,” and I’m not a huge fan of that term because it’s usually not a deliberate act. However, there are most definitely people out there that drain the f*ck out of us, and we usually know who they are because we feel flat, frustrated, and a host of other negative emotions when we are around them.

I try to look at everyone and everything from a compassionate perspective and at every person compassionately, knowing that everyone’s behaviour is a direct reflection of their level of self-awareness and consciousness, and everyone is at a different stage, thus removing judgement. However, that doesn’t mean everyone gets a free pass into my energy. In fact, I’ve made access to my energy a privilege because it should be a privilege, and we should be very selective as to whom we allow to tap into our energy.

When our energies vibrate at a similar frequency, our energy exchanges are balanced. When our energies with one another are out of sync, the person vibrating higher will feel a depletion of energy (if they don’t know how to protect it) and the person vibrating lower will feel an augmented energy, as they drain the other person. The problem occurs when this is frequent or ongoing, so you really do need to be conscious of the energy around you.

A simple exercise is to see how you are feeling around people and places. What feelings do you feel around certain people and places? Are you energised and happy, or do you feel drained and agitated? It’s not necessarily about avoiding, as we can’t avoid some people and places, but what we can do is be aware and practise clearing our energy fields.

We can also ensure we have appropriate boundaries in place as this will also help protect our energy. When we have a lack of boundaries or we allow our boundaries to be crossed, it disturbs our energy and lowers our vibration. Boundaries are crucial in protecting our energy and well-being.

Sometimes our light attracts moths and our warmth attracts parasites. Protect your space and energy because it’s your vitality. It’s the essence of who we are.

“Protect your space and circle. Invest in people who you know will feed you just as much goodness as you do them.” ~ Alexandra Elle