My brother is five years older than I am. He was a role model when I was young. He was artsy academic and anti establishment. He is an accomplished classical pianist, has a few degrees in both English and French, and to avoid paying back his student loans, has never stopped going to college. He is 66.

I’m a jazz musician, didn’t graduate college and am heterosexual, or at least I was.

For a year and and a half I have been getting snail mail from him. A lot of mail. And email. The box has I think around 150 letters. Some are several pages long. All typed on good thick paper. There are also post card style ones with writing on the back and a picture of some Facebook post or comment I made. The letters are all in third person as if he is writing my biography. It’s not very accurate, as a lot is missing, and it is entirely hostile. He does celebrate his own personal success and boasts about having a million dollars, as If money morality is a thing.  I am asked why, after my many requests for him to disengage, he continues. So here I think is the answer. He is a feminist. I am not.