When we talk too much and listen too little, we communicate to others and we think our ideas are much more important than theirs. In the book of James, the bible says “everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. Put a mental stopwatch on your conversations, and keep track of how much you talk and how much you listen. When people talk with you, do they feel their viewpoint and ideas have value or you must have the last word?. I know someone that always says sorry without even listening to why you are angry with her. If you don’t listen, how will you not repeat the same mess?.

Communication is so crucial in our relationship, especially in our marriages. Ladies, nagging never solves anything. Maybe you should try listening, trust me l have been married for 33years and still counting by His grace. A person’s wisdom yields patience, it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense.
You can’t always be right. Two of you can not be mad at the same time. Give each other space to cool down.

Ladies, don’t turn your home into a courtroom where you always have to argue your case. One of the lessons I learned in my married life is to listen before l speak. Listening is a good skill to have, and l also learned the skill in my study to become a counselor. It is a very difficult skill but yet very useful in our relationship. When you listen to your spouse you will understand where they are coming from, and you will save yourself so much stress, and peace can reign in your home.

I remember when my daughter was growing up and she found it difficult to understand his father. I taught her how to study her father like a book. I told her to listen carefully to him and study him and that skill will help her in her relationship too. She eventually understands his father and now is a new day. If you want to have a successful marriage, you have to be selfless and be considerate. It takes two to tangle. Always put your spouse in your position. Always remember that marriage is a two-way street and is always under construction. I say all the time, marriage is not for babies, is for mature people.

Some of our marriages are like nursery school. Our argument is like a nursery rhythm.
No marriage is a match made in heaven. You have to work on it. I used to love watching romantic movies and reading romantic novels and l noticed that it always ends with “ And they live happily ever after”
Some of us enter into marriage with this mindset of fairy tales and romantic movies. Marriage is real life.
Two different people from different backgrounds are now living together as one.