As I get older and wiser, I wonder why I sometimes feel sad during the holidays? I’ve come to understand why the holidays bring many different emotions each year and how to help myself feel better.

Change is Hard

Change is hard for most of us, especially if your mind is processing a change as “negative.” For me, my parents are getting much older and daily life is more difficult for them. As seniors, they also have the tendency to get depressed, especially during the holidays.   The years have been kind to some, but as we age, we realize how past choices affect our wellbeing.

You need to continue to be active mentally as well as physically. Remaining fit with puzzles or games to keep your physical age in tip top shape. Even a daily walk for 30 minutes has proven to keep your flexibility and mobility in best form. I am learning these two important lessons from my parents. Understanding what needs to be done for the future is a healthy start.

Traditions Bring Up Memories

The holidays are a time for family traditions, and some are not the same as time moves on. As your children grow up and have families of their own, new traditions also bring up memories of times past.

Making new traditions now with your family is the best way to feel happier and accept the new memories. Again, this might take a few years to work out your feelings of acceptance. Give yourself time and grace to make new memories and try out new holiday traditions that work.

Patience

Lastly, I need to be patient and accept things will never be the same again. The pandemic has changed many holiday activities we enjoyed in years past. My parents and kids are older, so priorities have also changed. Having patience to accept that we have our health, each other, and our love to keep us strong into 2023 makes me happier.

If I need a reminder or I’m feeling sad, I’ll re-read this article and reflect on my blessings. Happy Holidays, and hope you enjoy new traditions and memories this year!