If you’ve ever been in a painful relationship with someone who exhibits an inflated sense of self-importance, excessive self-love, self-admiration, and a lack of empathy, it’s likely that you were dealing with a narcissist. This type of person is impaired in their ability to form healthy interpersonal relationships and can subject their partners to a rollercoaster of drama and emotional pain.

With 35 years of experience as a Jungian graphologist, I use handwriting analysis to gain immediate access to a person’s inner workings. Handwriting reveals the subconscious mind, which drives our true selves. Even those without expertise in the field can glean accurate insights into themselves and others through what is shown in this article.

By using the insights shared here, you can make an informed decision about getting involved with someone who exhibits deep narcissistic tendencies. It’s better to act before you become too deeply involved and potentially expose yourself to the pain of a difficult relationship.

The science of human expressive gestures owes its existence to a natural law that seems to apply to all living creatures. Classically expressed as, “As within, so also without.” This basic principle tells us that every human muscle movement is ripe with psychological information that can be understood by the educated and careful observer. Body language, facial expression, and graphic gestures (handwriting, doodles, drawings) offer unfiltered, uncontaminated information about our subconscious drives, innate temperament, and possible neuroses or “energy blocks.” We can ‘read’ this energy for diagnosis and manipulate (graphotherapy = changing writing to help change subconscious due to the neuro-plastic nature of the brain) it for the purpose of healing.

The piece of paper on which an individual writes represents that person’s world. Thus, how we put strokes on paper mimics how we see ourselves in the world and how we move through our world. Handwriting is basically “brainwriting.” How we express ourselves on paper originates not from our hand but from neural impulses from our subconscious. Our movements on paper give us direct information into the organization of our brain and state of our energy field, that is, the energy state of our emotions and thoughts. It is our body language on paper.

Through using the method that is shown in this article, you can gain insight into a person’s inner psychology, revealing who they truly are instead of the persona they present. The adage in dating is that it takes about six months for a person’s true colors to emerge. Initially, we tend to display our best behavior, but as time passes, our shadow self – the part of us that harbors fears, defenses, and emotional baggage – eventually reveals itself.

The diagram below shows the 3 areas of life that we exist on; that we are always trying to find balance between: instinctual, everyday emotional, and intellectual. This image shows proper portion between the zones with the upper and lower zones roughly twice the height of the middle area. This writing would show someone whose energy & personality was in balance as our writing is a recording of our energy.

The following examples show writers whose energy & personalities aren’t balanced. The top sample indicates someone that is living too much in their “head,” their intellect; the middle sample is someone living in the every day without thought to the future or energy to do much, and the bottom sample indicates someone that is driven by instinctual urges.

What you can instantly do in order to see if who you are dealing with or maybe who you might want to possibly date is to look at the person’s signature, which is the public face we show people. If their capital letters are extremely inflated (more than 4 times the height of their middle letters) you are dealing with someone whose energy goes into their ambitions and how the others perceive them. This doesn’t mean the person is necessarily bad, rather it indicates (again, as our writing is a recording of our energy) a person whose energy is devoted in someway to themselves. They don’t have the energy then to truly be present for another person.

In depth psychological terms, the narcissist’s actions are really a compensation for some deep seated feelings of inferiority in some aspect of their life. The more extreme the behavior, the more extreme are the inferiority feelings. Sometimes it is said that it is a “superiority complex covering up an inferiority complex.” This does all have to be evaluated with other things in the writing, but it is an instant insight into how important a person’s image is to themselves. If the person has strong pride and dignity present, it can help mitigate the effects.

Here are some examples of known narcissists. Again, the more extreme the imbalance, the more extreme the quality in the individual. Note the extreme disproportion in Lance Armstrong’s writing, indicating that self-love is extreme within him.

After 35 years of studying personality types, the “Soul and Handwriting,” and body language I have found that handwriting, along with name interpretation and clues from Birthday Astrology are the tools that I have found to be the most accurate, quickest ways to gain insight into a person for the purpose of aiding personal growth and development in order to lead a fulfilling, authentic life. Additionally, know this “instant insight” tip has helped me in my interactions with others and helps me discern who I might want, or not want, to let in to my life.

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