Moon in Sagittarius, Sun in Sagittarius.

When a heart breaks, it leaves behind a scar that fades yet never fully goes away.

So different from childbirth…it’s so easy to forgive the pain when the baby’s fingers wrap around yours. However, we do not forget the pain of betrayal, injustice, ghosting another, or cheating for a very, very long time — if ever.

This double Sagittarius sky asked me to give you a positive angle on one of the hardest topics we know: forgiveness. Forgiveness is not hardwired into our operating system. We have to learn it. I have no memory of a class in high school that tested us on FORGIVENESS… do you?

Think of how different the world would be if we practiced forgiveness effortlessly — as your liver gets rid of toxins. Your mind would easily release the wound and quickly thereafter cherish the word forgiveness as much as the body cherishes breathing, turning pain into gold. There is no need for the other person who struck you to be involved; they don’t even need to know you are seeking forgiveness. You forgive on your own and set yourself free.

In the last few years, I have hurt more and lost more friends than I have at any other point in my life. At first, the stinger was so painful I couldn’t stop crying. Then, I did serious therapy and owned my side of the street.

After a year or two, I realized only time would take the stinger out—time and wisdom — generous scoops of both. I was on a path seeking redemption (definition: to release from blame or debt; to free oneself from the consequences of sin). I wanted to free myself of guilt and to stop blaming the other. I did it with a lot of Sag energy. I had to be philosophical. Every time I would touch my Water (my emotional body), it hurt too much. So, I learned to slide into philosophy.

For example, this thought was liberating (lyrics from a song by Motörhead): “Everyone is guilty, there is no one to blame.” I found myself reading “The Wisdom of Forgiveness” by the Dalai Lama. It can work with just one participant. Forgiveness is a one-way street. This was his suggestion:

How To Forgive Someone Who Has Hurt You

Forgiveness begins with a decision not to make the same mistake. You must realize that forgiving someone does not mean you are saying what they did was okay or didn’t hurt you, but that your anger and resentment toward them are no longer there.

Here are some tips:

1. Take a deep breath.
2. Decide to forgive the person and let go of your desire for revenge.
3. Ask yourself why they did what they did and try to see it from their point of view.
4. Focus on how you will be a better person if you forgive rather than remain bitter and angry.
5. Say sorry for your part in the conflict, even if you don’t think you are at fault.

Mercury Retrograde is starting just after this New Moon (Dec. 13 – Jan. 1). So Christmas and New Year is a time to remember. That’s what Mercury Retrograde is, all the words that start with RE – remember, review, return, recapitulate, go backward and see where adjustments can be made. This double Sag sky is filled with uplifting thoughts. No matter what has happened during this last year (and it’s been a doozy of bad news) or what you are face-to-face with: Life has your back. This is what I have learned and repeated to myself for a very long time.

Under this New Moon, the prayer is:
Help me to lighten up (said every double Sag).
Let me see the positive in all of this life.

When the pain is too big, remember to look up. Every Sagittarius has within them a latent optimist who can squeeze wisdom out of any experience. That is the gift of this sky. Life has your back.

This is the time to pray for positive energy to find its way to you. Ask, and you shall receive (another Sag one-liner — and it’s true). Last but not least: be thankful for ALL THINGS. All things? Yes, all things.

You will see how life is merely trying to stalk you to have faith and seek the high road. Wow, this is a spiritual blog. Double Sag is like that. So often, the spiritual one-liners do not carry weight, and we bypass our emotions with one-liners and take classes. I am asking you to see how you are at forgiveness. To be honest, this was not my strong suit — but in true Sag fashion, it is becoming so.

Did you know that Sagittarius prospers and becomes settled later in life? Mid-40s and on their time. So, if you haven’t been able to let go fully – there is time. Who’s in a rush when we have forever to get this right? (Another one-liner.)

The Sag in me made up that line, and it’s been serving me for a long time. Just know that forgiveness is the theme of the double Sagittarius sky.