I was on the phone for a homeopathic appointment, with a new practitioner to me, she was asking me of my history, my personality. If you’ve ever consulted with a homeopath you know how in depth and seemingly odd the questions can be. Homeopathy is one of the most widely ‘debunked’ therapies by the medical establishment, and one of the most powerful modalities I have ever experienced in the last 15 years.

The homepath had asked a number of physical health related questions and we were moving into the territory of the emotions, the personality, my personal nuances (any homeopath reading this I’m sure will have a terminology to explain this aspect of the initial interview and questioning).

“What about other people really irritates you?” she asked.

Hmmmm. I’m pretty good at protecting my energy these days and well beyond the falsity of the spiritual “mirroring” teaching. It took me some moments to feel into this one.

Eventually I replied; “Victims. I’m a coach, how can I not?”

I thought some more. I recalled some experiences in my last week that had triggered irritation.

“Unsolicited advice coming from the place of someone’s ego”.

I paused. “If I want someone’s opinion, I pay them for it.” I said.

I heard her laugh into the phone. “Absolutely. I’m the same” she replied.

I really should make a meme out of that, I thought.

This idea that if I want someone’s opinion, I pay them for it, has been permeating my mind for some months.

People seek me out for my expertise as a coach & energy healer and they pay me for it. I do exactly the same when I need help with something, I make the decision that I need support and then dependent on the situation, I may actively seek the support with some googling and phone calls, or I keep my eyes and ears open, for my right match. I wait for synchronicities, gut feelings and good vibrations..  It’s a Beach Boys kinda thing.

People in their mastery don’t give unsolicited advice to others. They hold space for others. They hold a frequency for others that may give them the answer they need without exchanging a single word. They may in conversation subtly open energetic doors for others to enter their field and ask for their free, or paid, advice if they like, but they don’t rant at others with their self-perceived superior wisdom to feed their egos. It is what it is.

I am happy to reveal very personal information and the complexity of my circumstances to someone who I have intuited can clearly help me, someone who comes from the right frequency, and is, in my reading of them, a master of their craft.

A ranting Ego will never get any of that from me. They get “aha” or a thumbs up on a bad day. Conversation closed. On a better day I just tell them straight

“Oh my apologies, I have no time for your self-ingratiating rant. You know what? Go start a YouTube channel. Make a podcast. Start a blog.” I am not your audience.

If I want someone’s opinion, I will pay them for it.