It’s not what you think! A lot of Twin Flames will meet their Twin Flame and find out that they’re already dating someone else or married to someone else. Their immediate thought is, “well this can’t be my Twin Flame…” Not true!

If you’ve read my other posts, you know that your Twin Flame doesn’t always show up on a pretty platter or with a perfectly wrapped bow. Why you may ask? Because when you meet your Twin Flame, that attraction you feel for one another brings ALL your insecurities up to the surface!

The Insecurities Creep Up

These are deep hidden insecurities that you may have even forgotten about. I’m talking back to childhood. If you’re thinking, “well, I don’t have any insecurities, I don’t know what you’re talking about…” Just wait.

You may be going about your life, loving yourself or loving your life, then come to meet your Twin Flame and then all of a sudden their “rejection” or “unavailability” hits you on a deeper level. A crushing “I’m not good enough” feeling starts to creep up to say “hello! I’m still here. Remember me? Remember that one time at band camp? Remember your first big rejection?”

Your mind goes to all those places. You start thinking, “well if my Twin Flame is with someone else, that means they don’t love me or feel the same way about me.” Or you feel that it’ll never work out between you and start wondering what’s wrong with you. You flashback to that Grey’s Anatomy scene where Meredith is like “pick me, choose me…”

The Purpose of It All

It’s a faith test really. It’s the Universe’s way of teaching you to trust your intuition and your heart. You know you feel their love. You know they feel the same. You’ve felt it in the 3D and the 5D. This connection is like nothing you’ve experienced before. That’s why your ego mind will doubt it and play the “insecurities” game with you. It doesn’t understand the heart-based connection.

But what are YOU going to believe? Love or Fear? The truth or your insecurities? You have to practice staying in your faith and working TOWARDS your Union.

The Action Plan

So you may be asking, “well what do I do then?” You have to realize that you and your Twin Flame share the same energy. When you have insecurities floatin’ around in your energy, the same ones are floatin’ in theirs. It may just show up differently for you both.

Your Twin Flame has the same “I’m not worthy!” insecurity. That same fear of rejection. They stay in other relationships that feel comfortable to them because the connection with you scares them.

The Twin Flame connection is intense! It scares a lot of Twin Flames into that “running” mode. They feel they don’t deserve you. That they don’t deserve better than what they currently have. That they’re not good enough for you. They’re afraid to even test the theory.

But it’s not your job to “heal them” or to “change their mind”. You have to accept your Twin Flame’s situation in order to transform yours!  Because if your Twin Flame is in a Karmic Relationship, you are too!

What are Karmic Relationships?

You may be thinking, “wait, what?? I’m not with someone else! How am I in a Karmic Relationship??” Again, it’s not what you think…

Karmic relationships show up in many different ways. It doesn’t always show up as a significant other. However, if you are also dating someone else or married to someone else, your relationship with your Twin Flame will not change until you change.

You have to ask yourself those tough questions! Are you in a loving, fulfilled relationship with your current partner? If not, why don’t you think you deserve better?

If you’re not dating or married to someone else, then your Karmic Relationship can show up as a job or career that you’re unfulfilled in, or a friendship that’s not serving you or a relationship with a family member that needs to change.

These are all Karmic “lessons” you’re learning to move on from. To close out. What you send out, you get back. Karma. So if you’re sending out “I’m not good enough”, you’ll get not so good feeling people or situations in your life. You have to raise your bar.

Deep down you know what or who it is for you. So again, remember, you share that same underlying insecurity with your Twin Flame, but while their “I’m not good enough” or “I don’t deserve better” feeling shows up as a loveless relationship, yours may show up as a loveless job/career.

Or you may have a friend you keep around because you feel bad if you don’t hang out with them. Or a family member who puts you down or tries to control you, and you allow it out of family “obligation” or “loyalty”.

But who wins in the end? Not you.

Self-Love is the Key

When you take a good, hard look at your life and you commit to loving yourself and raising your standards, then you’ll see a shift in your relationship with others. When you put your needs and well-being first, then you’ll start to see that shift in your relationship with your Twin Flame.

It all starts with you. So don’t wait around for your Twin Flame to leave their Karmic Relationship. They can only mirror back to you what you send out. So if you’re willing to stay in that unhealthy Karmic Relationship, then what you’re sending out to the Universe is “send me more unhealthy people or situations” and “please keep me in this unhealthy pattern with my Twin Flame”.

Make a commitment to yourself. Commit to only allowing love-filled relationships and situations in your life. YOU have to make that change. Do it for YOU. Don’t wait on others to do it for you. If you want to be with your Twin Flame, then send that message out to the Universe. Your Twin Flame will hear it too. They always do!