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December 15, 2020

7 Tricks to Make Kids Happy When They Are Not In the Mood

Names are not only given for objective purposes, but they also depict and decide who we are and what our personality can be. As people of different regions, religions, beliefs, and norms have different names. One can easily identify the origin of a person by his/her name. As humans, we love to label everything, and we are kind of obsessed with names. Partially it is because we don’t want chaos in our world, but mainly because we want to indicate the characters around us. By hearing just, the name of the person we start to assume about his personality and habits and almost everything, even when we have not seen the bearer of the name. This is why naming your children with beautiful names is very crucial. Do you know what does Nani means? Nani is a beautiful girls’ name that is both short and cute. It is a Greek word which means ‘grace’. In Japanese it means ‘beautiful’, and in Hawaiian, it means ‘glory’. Such a beautiful name that has lovely meanings in all traditions. Nani is a short and easy-to-pronounce name. Does it matter? Well, according to research, it does matter; people often associate positive things with people with easy names and harsh or hard assumptions for people with hard-to-pronounce names. When your kid has a beautiful and unique name, he will be adored and admired by others. Kids often feel proud and happy about this. Let’s discuss some things that make the kid’s happy even when they are not in a good mood. If you have a moody child or your child is not happy these days, and you want to ask him out without triggering him/her, here are some tips and strategies:

1.    Choose Your Tone and Time:

If your kid has been upset lately, and you want to ask him about his/her problems; the first thing you need to do is to choose your tone and the best timing. Don’t pressurize or blackmail your child by saying that he/she has been causing problems in the family, or the family is not happy just because he is in a bad mood, etc. This will only make him more rude or angry with you, and you won’t be able to find the root cause of his bad behavior.

2.    Open the Door to Conversation:

Kids often become secretive as they grew older; they hide their feelings and don’t want to share if they felt hurt or bad about something you did or said. The best way to overcome such differences is to open the door to conversation. Sit with them and ask about their day at school, as about friends or what activities they did at school. This will not only make your kids feel that you are concerned about them, and you care about them, but sharing their daily living will become their habit. Never push them towards the dead ends, if they are not opening up in the start or they want some private time, don’t scold them for doing so. Act patiently and wait until they allow you into their personal space.

3.    Ask, Don’t Label:

Try to change your choice of words when you are dealing with a child in a bad mood. As him patiently that if he needs help with something and waits until he responses. Asking a question is a better way than labeling something.

4.    Watch for Clues:

Try judging from the behavior of your child what he or she is up to. If something is alarming, like drastic changes in his grades, or conduct with friends and family, or something that looks serious, try to as him out. Avoid staling your child, knowing what he/she is up to is very necessary, and so is their emotional life but invading way past their privacy and personal space is not the solution.

5.    Looking for Signs that it’s Serious:

Your child might need your urgent attention if you see certain signs in him/her:

  • Signs and symptoms of depression, anxiety, or stress.
  • Abandonment from family and friends.
  • Disturbances in sleep.
  • Indecisiveness.
  • Talking about aimless life or death.
  • Loss of appetite, not eating what they used to eat happily.
  • Showing no interest in hobbies and school.

6.    Offer an Alternative:

If you see even any one of these signs, it is time to talk to them or take them to someone who can figure out their problems. Ask your child if they want to change school or change the place. If you are a single parent or divorced don’t be egoistic and let your children meet their either parents and discuss their problems with them.

7.    Bring in a Professional:

If the condition is so severe that you have to consult a psychiatrist or a psychologist, see it as a regular doctor visit. Nothing is important than your child, so don’t present a psychiatrist visit dramatically.

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