How do walk away from toxic family members? How much betrayal can a family do to each other? Can you have them in your life with healthy boundaries? Would they respect them?

What I have learned in walking away from toxic situations and people who are in those situations. Is it the best choice?

I have started to notice the toxic patterns in people around, family, friends, others and it really affected how I viewed relationships. As I started to heal and I had started to research what healthy boundaries, healthy relationships  were, as I did not what it was. Patterns, puzzles, escape games and reading I have always had an interest in, guess it always helped keep my mind active, as I like to overthink. I always been one to observe before doing, listening before reacting and thinking before acting. So observing others behaviors, and different characteristics of people around me has been a gift do to the fact my perspective changes with different situations I am in and a curse by being able to see people motives, it is a protected measure to protect myself.

How I learned to walk away from the toxic people in my life was I took off my rose tinted glasses off and started to see them for them. That was hard, the people who I love and protected were the ones that hurt me the most. I honestly don’t know how to answer the second question, there was so much betrayal that is as viewed normal but not talked about either. So I had to learn the hard way what was healthy and was not healthy, as I didn’t know in some capacities (I still had my morals, thank god). I just recently cut them out of my life, so no unless they know themselves how to respect your boundaries.

What I learned from all of this, it was a shock that I was able to do it, but I did. I have done ti when it seemed necessary in different situations in the past, but never did  in this capacity with amount of family members. Some very close and some didn’t realize had a problem. It was the a difficult choice, but one that I had to make. Who wants that kinda drama in your life when you have lived through it already. I just want peace with myself. Yes it was the right choice in the end, as I feel at peace with my choices.

Even through I have cut ties with these family members I still love them, but right now as they are in their darkness I have to keep myself away. I have so much to give and I have to be careful who I let close to me. I have voice that needs to be heard and it will be just give me time.

That’s all for now, I feel so tired (was up late last night from drawing, it has been awhile since I drew. Well I need to get ready for my day, it took a couple of days to write this, as it was hard to face it all.