Whether we are married, in a relationship, or single, here’s the million dollar question to ask ourselves today:

“Would I want to date myself?” Seriously.

If you could choose anyone, would you want to date you? If the answer is no, there is a massive disconnect with the spirit.

Because the most awesome version of you is f*cking amazing.

Let’s break it down on how to make yourself immensely attractive to the most important person—you.

1. Slice and dice your pleasure.

The version of you who powers through the day with no time for pleasure and joy is very difficult to date and is no fun at all.

How many of us work our asses off all day and wait until the very end to enjoy a yoga class, stiff drink or both?

Happiness comes from frequency of positive experiences, not the intensity of positive experiences. This means you have to make time throughout your day to enjoy your life.

For instance, narrate your day with music. If at all possible, never let the tunes stop playing.

My favorite song right now, The Avett Brothers “Part from Me.” I can’t stop listening to it.

2. Live in your beach house. Yes, you have one. 

There is a place in everyone’s mind that offers the most glorious view into the world It is the beach house of your mind. Yet, most of us choose to reside in a small, cramped, dirty apartment in our mind.

So how do you get to your beach house?

If you have yet to start meditating, it’s a game changer. It expands your world, gives you keys to the beach house, and a joy ride through the universe.

I’m launching a whole series of meditations in the new year. In the meantime, check out my SoulShine Meditation.

3. Feel more, think less.

Love is an emotion. If you try to intellectualize it, you’ll go insane.

So if you are feeling less than attractive right now, it’s all in your head.

The greatest drummer of all-time, Neil Peart from the band Rush, lived through the ultimate darkness. His daughter died in an accident, and less than a year later, his wife died. He jumped on his motorcycle and rode through his pain for months.

In his book Ghost Rider, he wrote how, in some strange way, in his most painful moments, he seemed to be more attractive to the opposite sex.

Not to say we seek pain to be attractive, but stir your feelings, feel your passions, let your soul shine.

Pablo Neruda said, “As if you were on fire from within, the moon lives in the lining of your skin.”

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This all comes down to living from a deeper place.

Attraction is about energy, not appearance. When you feel good, you look good!

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Editor: Catherine Monkman

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