About Marriage

So I work with this woman and she was at the time engaged, the wedding was kind of far off and they were trying to decide whether to start looking for houses now or to wait until after the wedding. Typical water cooler talk except we were casually chatting in the boss’s office and I told her that she should wait but not for the typical reasons.

“You should wait until after you’re married, the paperwork is easier. Being married instantly gives you certain magical powers, that’s why people want to be able to do it.”

I elaborated, of course, but this was my spontaneous reaction to her situation and in a way it sounded almost political. Getting married is getting married but for some couples it’s more difficult, more challenging, to get these legal rights that look like magical powers. When you’re buying a house, deciding who is next of kin for medical decisions, that person who always has your back should be flying the plane, not on the ground waving. If two people who are willing to share their love and their responsibility to each other, why shouldn’t they be able to formalize their relationship? Doesn’t this benefit everyone?

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