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I am an attractive female, 5’4”, brunette, brown eyes, petite, a hot date. You hardly ever come and talk to me. I want to show you how to approach women to get the results you want.
Have you been on Tinder? Do you have a picture with a tiger? Are you pouting? Are you showing yourself in full glory surfing in Thailand?
John, 28 years old, white male. Not an asshole. Likes spending time with his mates. John has an image of a penis decorated with fairy lights as his profile picture. We did not match.
When you come to a bar and you see this extremely handsome man sitting there, then on the other side there is a man wearing a very expensive suit and a watch that cost more than everything you own, you think there is no way you can even attempt going and talking to a lady because these men are so much better than you. Guess what? The handsome guy is too busy thinking about what he looks like, and the rich guy is insecure just like you. He is just wearing a more expensive suit.
My name is IEVA KAMBAROVAITE. I am a relationship and dating coach. I have written a book to help you with dating. I want you to get that hot date.
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The main reason you are still single is because you do not approach women. You spend too much time on your phone, you are not present, and you are oblivious to your surroundings. You spend more time texting than talking to someone face to face. There has never been a better time to go and approach a woman. She will be caught by surprise, since it is so rare nowadays. Do you know a lot of men that randomly start a conversation with a woman they don’t know?
I love watching people. My friends say I perv on strangers. I love to make eye contact. I stare at strangers; sometimes they gaze back, sometimes they look away. I catch some of them looking confused and even guilty. Why would you feel guilty? It is not as if I can read your mind. Do you look at women? Do it. Unapologetically.
I spend hours at coffee shops just staring at you and thinking of the things you do, foods you cook, books you read, TV programmes you watch, your underwear, the kind of porn you watch, or your success rate when it comes to getting laid. You hardly ever come and talk to me.
Late in the afternoon. I am sitting at a busy coffee shop. I am pretending to read a book. I catch a glimpse of a stranger on the stage. He is tuning his guitar. We exchange smiles. 20 minutes later he comes to the coffee shop. Heads upstairs to use the bathroom. He is back. Before rushing through the door, he leaves a piece of paper next to my coffee. Now I know his full name, a telephone number, and his relationship status. I send a picture of the note to my friend to prove that romance is not dead. I go on Facebook. We have two mutual friends. He looks okay.
You need to start approaching women today if you want to get a date. If you do not feel comfortable coming up and talking to a lady, just find a way to let her know that you are interested. Make eye contact, look at her reaction, and give a little smile. Write her a note with your telephone number. Just remember that if you hand her a note, you do not know if she ever messages. You are giving all the power to her; don’t! Instead take what you want. Get her number. Women are lovely and friendly. We do not bite. If she does, you do not want to be her friend. Find ways to start a conversation.
It might be uncomfortable the first time you do it, but you will get better with time. Do you drive? Do you remember your first day at work? You probably had very limited or no experience at all when you started doing these things, but it has become better with time. You cannot get better at something if you do not practice. I will talk about a great technique you can use to become more confident.
In the meantime, I want you to go out and talk to a lady. It does not have to be anything sexual. Start with someone you do not find extremely intimidating. Talk about the weather, her lovely top, or her stylish shoes. Build the stamina. Have fun.
Some of the material used in this post is from my book HOW TO GET LAID NOW. The Modern Man’s Strategy to Approaching Women like The Boss.
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