Too Shy to Talk to a Woman? A Life-Changing Secret Technique to Boost Your Confidence

The reason you are single is because you are not confident. I have never been approached by a man who looked down and did not make eye contact, had his hands shaking, and had an expression on his face as if he was about to vomit if he uttered a word to me.

Do you want to know a secret? A man like that doesn’t initiate a conversation with a woman. If you are reading this, there might be a slight chance that you have something in common with this kind of man.

Peter, 36. Lives in his two-bedroom flat in the city center. Does not go out much. Had a girlfriend five years ago. They were engaged. Peter works at a local newspaper. He is well respected at his job. Work takes most of his time, he spends evenings at home watching Sky Sports and Netflix. Peter has never been that good with ladies. He does not remember the last time he got laid. There is someone he fancies at the office.

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Sam, 36. Lives with his mum in his hometown. Gets a minimum wage. Goes out a lot. Has two women in the same city and one in London. He is a father of two young boys, hardly ever remembers to pay the child support. Sam works as a handy man. This is where he usually meets women. He says the pub is also a great place. In fact, getting laid has never been a problem for Sam.

Let’s look at Sam and Peter, their baggage, personal circumstances, and careers. They are both great guys, but if I had to choose, I would probably go for Peter. How come Peter has got so little luck with ladies?

The only thing that is stopping him is the lack of confidence. Peter is missing out on so much fun. I hope you are not like Peter. If you are, I would like to introduce you to a simple technique that will help you to overcome your shyness.

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The first thing you need to understand is that your brain is here to protect you. Every single time you do something out of your comfort zone, your brain is screaming, “No, wait! What are you doing? This is dangerous!”

This is helpful because it protects you from things like getting into a fight with a tiger or trying to jump out of an airplane without a parachute. However, it stops you from doing such simple things as talking to a lady if this is something you do not do often.

Mel Robbins, an author and a life coach, is known for a genius five-second rule. The simple technique that helps to beat analyzing, hesitating, and overthinking. Every single day you have all these little voices in your head prompting you and telling you what to do, but you choose not to listen to them.

For instance, you see an attractive lady and your first instinct is to go and talk to her, but you come up with excuses why you shouldn’t. All you need to do is count: five, four, three, two, one. Get up and do it.

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Once you start taking action over and over, you become the person who believes that you are in control of your life. It is a tool to help you start doing instead of just thinking. This technique has helped thousands of people around the world. It has even saved a man from committing suicide.

You are not going to be on speed dial to every single woman that you meet over the night, but your confidence will grow. Once you do it a couple of times, you will see how much more comfortable you become. It is like building a muscle at the gym. At first, you can hardly lift any weights, but when days pass by and you keep training, you start seeing results.

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One very important thing to remember is that you will approach a woman and she might utter a very firm NO. Do not take it personally and do not be discouraged. It is a ‘no’ from her, not from Ellie or Victoria.

Believe in yourself and understand that you are interesting. There are so many ladies out there that cannot wait to meet a man like you, but they do not know about you because you never come and talk to them.

Some of the material used in this article is from my book HOW TO GET LAID NOW. The Modern Man’s Strategy to Approaching Women Like the Boss.

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