Moms against drunk driving holding a memorial day weekend event would be a good example. Giving $12 million to missing and murdered indigenous women when most missing and murdered indigenous people are not women would be another.

I recall a woman exclaim that, ” that’s men raping men, it doesn’t count!” When I told her that if the incarcerated were included, more men are sexual assaulted than women in the US. Is that gendermandering? I would say so. On several occasions, I’ve had Feminists tell me the same about the statistics about murdered men. It’s men killing men. It doesn’t count. Inversely, we see male violence against men and called it racism, as in the George Floyd case. The omission of gender in media coverage of the loss of life events will very often contain gendermandering. Who has not heard or read headlines such as, ‘ six killed including two women…” or the softening of women Perps either not naming them, not gendering them or even creating justifications such as the Scott Deegan tragedy in Bellingham Washington State where the mother killed her twin 7 year old daughters and the father was only mentioned as estranged and the cause as he had just secured custodial parent status.  I hope you have read this and start to see gendermandering as well. So to define clearly, gendermandering is the taking of the narrative from one gender and claiming it for the other, much in the way gerrymandering works in redistricting for political advantages. This occurring either by erasing the other, or by grandstanding or slipstreaming. Using Memorial Day to promote Moms in the form of Mothers Against Drunk Driving is too distasteful to ignore. And ignoring the fallen is worse. Almost all the fallen are and were men. Memorialize that.